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MercuryPenny
Posted on 03-14-16 11:44 PM Link | #68604
Why Mario in particular?

Baby Luigi
Posted on 03-15-16 02:00 PM Link | #68627
Mario is the series we care most about and love the characters and stuff.

Nin
Posted on 03-15-16 07:21 PM Link | #68696
Wow, I currently have 13 projects in the works all at once.


Weird how I can manage it all.

Baby Luigi
Posted on 03-15-16 07:21 PM Link | #68697
That's not surprising.

I still have too much big projects to count under my nose.

Arisotura
Posted on 03-15-16 07:22 PM Link | #68698
I can't even manage one, so deh

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Tierage
Posted on 03-15-16 07:24 PM Link | #68701
What kind of projects you guys got?


...Yourself

Arisotura
Posted on 03-15-16 07:25 PM Link | #68703
I want to make a 3DS emu, but haven't started yet

I should also work on Coinkiller, maybe do something to blargSNES


and the univ crap, oh boy

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Baby Luigi
Posted on 03-15-16 07:26 PM Link | #68704

Arisotura
Posted on 03-15-16 07:27 PM Link | #68706
well you haven't seen the plan I'm building


which is part of the ongoing "escape parents and their shit" saga

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Baby Luigi
Posted on 03-15-16 07:29 PM Link | #68707
I'm still virtually powerless now so there's not much I can do aside from not taking my dad's lies to heart.

Arisotura
Posted on 03-15-16 07:37 PM Link | #68708
reminds me of the last time mom served me her typical bullshit ("you will fail if you don't do it exactly my way blahblahblahblah")


instead of ending in the same old pointless argument, I figured I'd troll her, the outcome is the same and I keep a good mood

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Baby Luigi
Posted on 03-15-16 07:38 PM Link | #68710
lol wish I can do the same to my dad

Arisotura
Posted on 03-15-16 07:40 PM Link | #68712
of course, this isn't recommended if the person facing you is the kind who would rage hard

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Baby Luigi
Posted on 03-15-16 07:41 PM Link | #68713
Dad doesn't know how to take a joke and criticism, but I wish I can deflect his temper tantrums off my emotions.

Arisotura
Posted on 03-15-16 07:53 PM Link | #68715
well yeah, best response is probably ignoring his shit, or saying what he wants to hear

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LeftyGreenMario
Posted on 03-15-16 08:51 PM Link | #68725
Yeah, it was harder to do when nobody is there to fact-check Dad's lies (or nobody brave enough...), which includes his unreasonable expectations from us. I'm actually an uber-sensitive person, amplified by Dad being, well, my Dad and someone who I should trust. In a way, I'm still surprised that Dad has been emotionally abusing me all this time, and I was even denying that when I suspected or when other people in the community and my psychiatrist told me this. I've been manipulated by Dad to accept whatever he says as the truth, that I'm a loser, I'm 21 and still living with my parents, I can't drive, I can't cook a lot, and I'm sitting at a computer all day, and my living is pathetic, with my ADHD being an excuse.

He drove me to the point where I hurt myself. I cut myself with scissors, scratched my arm and face until they were red, I shaved one of my eyebrows off, and sobbed for most of the remaining night because I really thought I was pathetic and I couldn't express my frustration and anguish without feeling like a whiny self-entitled adult-child and a failure. Dad after all does love me, and I've thought that abusers are evil people, and Dad isn't evil and he does have good ethics. I also thought it was my fault for failing at life and I didn't deserve a roof or a home when people around me work so hard. I didn't want to kill myself, I just wanted to give my physical body some misery and blood-letting and some ugliness without being crippled, which is why I resorted to self-harm. Not to mention, I looked it up on the Internet.

I had to reevaluate my entire relationship with my dad, and even now, I have to reflect other emotional outbreaks I had with him such as scratching his car with a blade, sobbing in bed, how Dad humiliated me in front of his family, and most likely continued emotional abuse in the future, but now that I identified Dad's insults as mostly lies and and emotional abuse, I think I can handle them better, though I'm still terrified of him. He's also controlling what I do, as Baby Luigi probably has said, by manipulating our Internet connection.

Degolegodyl
Posted on 03-15-16 09:07 PM Link | #68726
I find that it's really hard to find help as an adult. In high school one could just go to school and talk to a councilor, but when one's an adult, now, it's hard to seek help. You can't just go to a psychologist cause they destroy your wallet, (not even part of free health care here in Canada). If one goes to university, one can seek help there, there's a lot of mental health programs going around, but I saw that you don't go to college either. If you find someone to talk with, any social worker, it would be great, specially if you could get someone to help you financially (probably not going to happen). That's why the best option for you might actually be to go to the police and tell them the story, tell them you hurt yourself and tell them about the psychological abuse. If the police don't do anything, go higher, go to the state police. Many city police do not consider psychological abuse a real problem, while in fact, it really is, it drives people to kill themselves all over the world.

I know how hard it could be, just be strong, remember you are a person, an adult and you have the power to denounce people that bother you, take the power. Remember this could also get bad for you, like your parent kicking you out of the house (they legally can since your over 18). So think everything through. But I do not think anything is worth hurting and hating oneself. Take action before this escalates any further, save a life by saving yours. Hope this helped.

Arisotura
Posted on 03-15-16 09:36 PM Link | #68729
Kuribo64 is here for you, even if that doesn't mean much.


Also, if you want to go to the police, you should try to get records of your dad's actions. Going to them with zero proof will give you nothing but trouble.


I've been manipulated by Dad to accept whatever he says as the truth, that I'm a loser, I'm 21 and still living with my parents, I can't drive, I can't cook a lot, and I'm sitting at a computer all day, and my living is pathetic, with my ADHD being an excuse.

Did he really say that, or did he imply it in some way or another? Regardless, that's a terrible way to think of your children.

Not living on your own at 21 isn't a big deal. Well, I don't know how things go in USA, but it's not like you were 40.

Regarding driving, have your parents done anything towards taking you to a driving school? If not, well, he can shut up. He'd expect you to take the decision but it's your own choice. And those things cost money, too.

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LeftyGreenMario
Posted on 03-15-16 09:57 PM (rev. 3 of 03-15-16 10:00 PM) Link | #68730
I do go to community college if that counts. I'm in the U.S. as far as I know, but I've had other people from Canada in another gaming community giving me advice. I frequent another one much longer than this one, so yeah, I don't want you to feel like I'm just wanting to elicit pity from you because I'd feel horrible. I mean, someone even threatened suicide here and got backlash for "wanting attention", and I myself have made strong implications of willingness to commit suicide that time without prior warning but then later posting to clarify what happened and then said that "I'll be off" but I just had to post more and more details and answers, and at one point, even deny the abuse taking place so I seem like a self-entitled brat than an actual victim, so a third party without preconceptions can properly identify what's going on.

Not sure about social care services, I've hurt myself back in the 20th of January (god, I still remember that date) and, while everything else seems to be fine, my scratch wound on my arm and the marks where the cut wounds were are still there.

As much as I want the police to know about Dad, I don't think it's gonna help since at the time, he's the only one with income in my family (my older brother recently got a job, so that's great) and we're struggling with maintaining our house. Yeah, I'm pretty sure the Great Recession is hitting us hard.

But really, I appreciate your advice and I'll consider it as well. It's satisfying to see other people denounce Dad because it helps me realize how much of an ass he is and, more importantly, how wrong he is. I didn't realize how ridiculously warped my rational for self-harm was and how typical it is for victims involved in the abuse cycle but if it weren't for the people I contacted, I wouldn't have realized. I've said "Dad isn't a bad parent, he just bought us a new graphics card, he takes us to restaurants, he takes us to haircuts, he cooks for us, he sometimes hugs us, he has pictures of me and my sister in his room, he can't be abusive/a bad parent" but others have said that he isn't providing adequate support either way, even the emotional support.

But yeah, I think there's something positive to gain from this, and that I can empathize with people like StapleButter who also have bad parents.

Posted by StapleButter
Kuribo64 is here for you, even if that doesn't mean much.


Also, if you want to go to the police, you should try to get records of your dad's actions. Going to them with zero proof will give you nothing but trouble.


Did he really say that, or did he imply it in some way or another? Regardless, that's a terrible way to think of your children.

Not living on your own at 21 isn't a big deal. Well, I don't know how things go in USA, but it's not like you were 40.

Regarding driving, have your parents done anything towards taking you to a driving school? If not, well, he can shut up. He'd expect you to take the decision but it's your own choice. And those things cost money, too.


I don't have any actual proof, so there's that.

And yeah, he did say that. This below is how I recalled it, but it's still pretty accurate and was posted when the memory is still fresh. But he HAS threatened the police, he has said that it's "pathetic" and he has mentioned my ADHD and that "you can't excuse it for acting like a 12 year old when you're actually 20", especially since after I've told him that there's a 4-year delay in cognitive development in ADHD so he thinks I'm just using it as an excuse for "having a pathetic life".

He mentions, I'm 20 years old, don't know how to cook, I don't drive, don't have a job, sits in front of a computer or a TV set with a controller in hand. He said it's pathetic. He said something like "what are you going to do, say it's your ADHD so you think you have a right or an excuse to be treated as a 12 year old". Given his past remarks about it, even calling me a freak at one point. He probably thinks ADHD is a lie or an excuse I make. His Chinese culture has that kind of attitude to mental disorders. I still think he's ignorant, but it's still personal and it's still an emotional low blow. He finished with "If you don't like what I'm saying or living here, then get out. I can call the police to get you out of here. You're 20, going to 21, not a kid anymore."


I still remember, even after I tried leaving him alone, he had followed me and said that "I'm trying to be calm to you; why are you so aggressive and hostile to me?". To put it into context, he wasn't really shouting at me, but there's definitely aggression in his voice. He has a really passive-aggressive way to dealing with this.

Well, on driving, our parents haven't really done much other than verbally berate us, and we actually attempted to go online to learn about driving (and I passed that), but never went farther than that. I've always thought it's my fault I haven't really pushed myself especially since I tell other people to push themselves instead of getting spoonfed.

In the U.S., it really isn't a big deal especially with rising college expenses that force students to stick with their parents to avoid room and board fees AND they have to go to college for more than 4 years, but again, I wouldn't have known because I don't personally know a lot of people. In reality, to live on your own at 20 would be like a legend. In Dadland, you're out and self-sustainable (even though Dad lived with his sister well in this 30s; he thinks it's a special case especially since he's not even born in the U.S.... I mean, what... how can he, a complete foreigner, impose expectations for someone growing up in the U.S.. That boggles my mind now that I think about it.).

Arisotura
Posted on 03-15-16 09:59 PM Link | #68731
if you're referring to Squidgirl, he got backlash for actually being an attention whore -- when he wasn't busy making up crazy conspiracy theories, he would constantly whine about how his life was shit and he would commit suicide, and do nothing to try changing. He even faked his suicide and impersonated his mom.

At Kafuka we have tried to help him for how long, and all he did was piss on us.


(still processing the rest of your post; I had to take care of that part)

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