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visit parents for Christmas?
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StapleButter
Posted on 09-14-18 02:48 PM Link | #95926
I'm wondering about this


basically:


2016

back when we still played the game of family cohesion. honestly, all in all, we had good times together, even though their constant self-inflicted dramatic-TV-news brainwashing gets on my nerves after a while.


2017

was when everything shat itself. planning was done at last minute and ended up being inconvenient for them but they didn't communicate about it. dad talked to me only to berate me about it, in a tone that was a bit "you're being a burden". as he always does that kind of shit (only contacts me to berate me about something, then complains about how I never talk to him), I lashed out at him, cancelled the trip at last minute, and you guess how things went.

there's also the bit where I'm trans and that's not what mom wanted. I found out about that about one year ago, came out mid-October 2017. you guess how it went.

the trans bit wasn't relevant to that argument, but of course, mom had to drag it in. she refused to acknowledge the fact that you don't choose to be trans.



2018

parents still being shito, even after an attempted gesture from me. mostly no contact.

mom still playing the innocent victim all the goddamn time. either attempting manipulation or being genuinely paranoid. or both.

she assured me they wouldn't be judging me or going "this doesn't fit you, you're better as a boy" if I were to visit them. but... meh. have to keep in mind that these 'family' members lost their minds at the slightest sign of gender variance. especially 'sister'.

should say a lot that the most supportive person was dad, and he's unable to show actual support or understanding or empathy.

anyway

uncle/aunt/cousins are cool. (guess not being completely consumed by capitalism helps)

so, might visit them? either if they show up at parents' house. or somehow going to their house, but it's in some remote shitland so not sure I can get there without a car.

might visit grandma? I came out to her and she didn't throw a fit, but she was mostly like "you have to hide it so we can pretend to be a united family", which... no.

stay with comrades? 2017 was cool with them



RARGL


so, what do I do there

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Thierry
Posted on 09-14-18 07:33 PM Link | #95927
Posted by StapleButter
she assured me they wouldn't be judging me or going "this doesn't fit you, you're better as a boy" if I were to visit them. but... meh. have to keep in mind that these 'family' members lost their minds at the slightest sign of gender variance. especially 'sister'.

well, if your parents say they won't drop such comments then I advise you consider going at least one last time. that way you won't be guilt-trip backstabbed for not going; and you will know if it's ever worth going to anymore.

however, you're gonna have a shitty time if cousins/etc can't make it, so you may want to make sure they will be there. don't feel bad for imposing, just ask and explain to them that thier presence really helps.
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natnew
Posted on 09-15-18 12:34 PM Link | #95932
Posted by Thierry
well, if your parents say they won't drop such comments then I advise you consider going at least one last time. that way you won't be guilt-trip backstabbed for not going; and you will know if it's ever worth going to anymore.


Yeah I agree. Might as well, since all cards are on the table.

Then again I've never been in a situation like that so... idk.


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LeftyGreenMario
Posted on 09-17-18 12:34 AM (rev. 2 of 09-17-18 12:35 AM) Link | #95939
Why do or should you think they're entitled to a Christmas with you? That's my question. If you want to plan with other more deserving family members, do that in secret.


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